Several years ago I worked in retail
and had the pleasure of being able to help a guy who was not at all familiar
with the true meaning of love. Jose was in his early 30’s, married with
children. During one of our conversations Jose made a very interesting, but
contradictory comment. He said, I love my wife a lot, but I’m very unfaithful
to her. I cheat on her all the time. Unfortunately he’s not the only guy I’ve
heard say this. Something is very twisted about this comment. Wouldn’t you
agree? A lot of people think they know what love is, but very few actually do.
One day during one of our conversations Jose asked, what is love? I replied with
a question, would you give up your life for your wife? He thought about it for
a few seconds and then said, yes I would; I love her that much. I would give up
my life for her. I wanted to guide Jose in the right direction and thankfully
his openness to the truth of love made it possible for him to experience a
deeper understanding of love.
Jose was very curious and wanted to
hear more so I explained to him, if you are willing to give up your life for
your wife then you should be willing to be faithful to her because being
faithful to someone is less than giving up your life for someone; and if you’re
willing to do the greater thing, then you should be willing to do the lesser
thing too. Both are noble and true ways to show our love to another. Being
faithful requires a dying to selfish desires. We must sacrifice seeing or
spending time with a romantic interest who could tempt us to be unfaithful.
When we love someone we never want to bring harm to that person; we only want
to bring good to that person. We should do everything in our power to avoid the
choices and actions that could hurt our beloved. We should also remember that being
considerate of another is a major aspect of love. Being considerate could also
help us to remain faithful to our beloved.
Sacrifice is a core aspect of love.
When we love someone we will go to great lengths to be there for them. When we
truly value someone we will go out of our way for them, to help them and to
seek their well-being. When we love someone we will sacrifice daily for that
person. When we love someone, our discomfort becomes irrelevant, and their
well-being becomes everything. Please don’t misunderstand what I’m saying here.
Sometimes we will experience discomfort in our sacrifices. It isn't always
comfortable being there for someone you love, but we need to do our best
nevertheless. It isn’t always comfortable getting up early to do something good
for others, but we make the sacrifice because we care. Sacrifice means making
an extra effort to bring good to another; it means showing that we care and
putting another’s needs above our wants. Sometimes we may have to give up
something in order to bring a greater good to someone we care about. This is
real love. Has anyone ever sacrificed for you in this way? Have you ever
sacrificed for anyone in this way?
Sacrifice isn’t always about giving
up something; it can be about giving our best. Great love can be shown through
our sacrifices. Remember, when we sacrifice for someone we love, we must do it
for them, not for us. Our sacrifice must be selfless in order to reflect true
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