What is Love?
is power, and having the right knowledge of love can really make a
difference in our life and in our relationships. Seeing love as a
language can help us to understand love in a practical way. Love isn’t
five or seven languages; it is one language; and it would be a very good thing to
become very familiar with this language, if we wish to speak it well. The
of love consists of many love words. Commitment is a love word. Honesty is a love word. Respect is a love word. Sacrifice is a love word. Action
is a love word—and so on and so
on. Love speaks to the heart in beautiful and profound
ways. The heart was made to understand the beautiful language of
words, expressions and inner movements. All languages come with their
certainly with more than five or seven words or expressions. We cannot
limit the meaning of love and we cannot be lazy when it comes to love.
We should not be mediocre or take shortcuts either—not when speaking the
beautiful language of love.
Language has to be studied and practiced in order to be mastered. In
to learning the vocabulary and expressions of a language, there are
(rules of the language) that one must also learn. Finally, one will need
spend hours practicing a language until he or she is able to speak it
It is no different with the language of love. If we wish to love someone
total and authentic love, we will need to become familiar with the many
rich aspects and expressions
pertaining to real love. This will require time, study, reflection and
practice. Once we learn the beautiful language of love, we will need to
it with our actions, our desire, our mind, our body, our will and our virtue.
What Psychology Says About Love
The theme of popular movies, soap
operas, songs and poetry, love is certainly a subject that captures the heart of
many. There are many ideas about love to be sure but the most popular view of
love is perpetuated by pop psychology. Pop psychology has reduced love to merely a chemical reaction in the brain. Pop
psychologists are very big on emotion and tend to view romance (sexual or
emotional attraction) as synonymous with love. “Love is an emotion” they’ve proclaimed for many years. The average person does not know that in psychology there are many theories about love. "Love is an emotion" is merely one theory of many. This theory has become very popular in our world today, but this hasn't always been the case historically.
Many psychologists will admit that
love is very hard to define. As stated previously Psychology offers many theories about
love. Let’s take a look at some of the not so popular perspectives on
Dr. David Hawkins, a psychiatrist,
physician, researcher, and pioneer in the fields of consciousness research and
Love is misunderstood to be an emotion; actually, it is a state of
awareness, a way of being in the world, a way of seeing oneself and others.
Erich Fromm, a social psychologist and author of The Art of Loving
challenged popular views about love for many years. He wrote:
Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love
were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other
forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay
forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision?
Shimoff, a #1 New York Times bestselling author (author of Love for No Reason) confirms a truth
about love that I’ve been sharing with others for many years. She says in her
Until recently, most of the
research on love focused exclusively on relationships or the biochemistry of
romantic love. But we’re living in an exciting time as the study of
unconditional love–expressed as compassion, forgiveness, empathy, altruism, and
so on—gains steam in the scientific community.
Leo Buscaglia, author of Love: What Life is All About, believed
that love could be learned. He was known for sharing insights about love such
Only when we give joyfully, without hesitation or thought of gain,
can we truly know what love means.
So what can psychology teach us about love? That love is more than an emotion,
that emotion is a beautiful part of love but it is not the whole thing. Love has many aspects and love has
many beautiful emotions, not just one.
© 2012-2018 John Estrellas